A man that she stood by and helped build wealth is dating a younger lady who i will call 'Ms Smarty Pants'. The story am about to relate here still makes me go.'she's one lucky Lady'.Ī high society woman in Nigeria Africa on learning that her husband that she married when he didnt have much. Some women have been known to be firm and some just allow things to ride with the hope that a negative situation will correct itself without lifting a finger.
We must have at one time or the other heard about how some women took charge when things got out of wack. NB: This is adapted for this blog from my original post dd July 2012.įrom my original blog, sub titled Taking charge series: Something different but not too alarming(not scandalous or scary)
Stop trying to distract yourself with strangers or put a wedge between yourself and your partner. You need a deeper attraction than what you currently have. If the desire for your partner is only physical then you're in serious trouble as that which attracted you to him or her can fade away anytime. They deserve to know what's on your mind. Take a closer look at your partner and tell me if you dont deserve him or her. They have each other and are warm blooded enough to speak about their journey. Take a look at this couple in the video below.they dont have two heads. Need i say that he obliged me and am so proud of the outcome and how things rolled on smoothly. I threatened not to listen to him again till he does as i advised (oh how i stood my ground). I told him after our usual convo to please share what he's just told me with his partner. I did rock the boat with a friend of recent. We leave him or her wandering and wondering most of the time. The main person that is meant to be the center of our universe is relegated to the background. We seem to have mostly this days gotten to the stage were it's cool to confide in someone else other than our spouse or partner. But i will prefer they talk more to their partners about certain things than me.(or maybe the invisible factor is at play) I dont mind being a confidant to most of my male friends as they are many, as a matter of fact i took my sweet time to count and realized i have more male friends than female this days.hmmm.
Talk more to your partner more than ever, dont wait till they tell you something before you talk. You just have to make out time and treat each other with respect. I dare you to talk more to your partner and even take it a step further by writing about your relationship.ĭont tell me that you're too shy to do that.ĭid i just hear someone say life's too busy for all the smooches now.hmm, but it wasnt when you went all out to conquer, was it?
Is your partner just a wall paper that you dont need to acknowledge or talk to?ĭo you find it easy to pour out your heart to others instead of your spouse or partner?ĭo you buy into the hype of seeing counselors?(nothing bad in that)ĭo you know that those books you're reading on relationship and how to be better were written by everyday people like you. What do you think should be the next thing on your agenda? What next?įor some it will be building their career whilst for others it's the quest for a jnr "Them". We spend our whole life looking for the perfect job after college or in between after which we go after or rather chase after skirts or trousers depending on the gender.Īnd when we finally get "The One". Something close to what i will call pay as you go. Everyone seem to have a checklist in their head which they sort& tick as they go.